The Rising Cost of “Free”: Why Mobile Games and Apps Are Drowning Us in Ads and Subscriptions

Over the last decade, mobile games and apps have become a major part of our daily lives. From fitness trackers and photo editors to farming simulators and puzzle games, there's an app for everything. But there’s also something else in almost all of them—ads. And not just a few… endless ads.

Today, many users feel like the “free” experience has become almost unusable. Ads run before, during, and after every action. Some pop up unexpectedly, some hijack the entire screen, and others force you to watch 30–60 seconds just to continue a level. What used to be a quick escape or productivity tool has become a constant interruption.

So what happened?

Ads Have Become the Main Business Model

For years, developers relied on one-time purchases or small banner ads. But as competition grew and the app stores became crowded, many developers turned to aggressive advertising networks to stay profitable.

Now we're hit with:

• Full-screen video ads
• Auto-playing ads
• Fake “X” buttons
• Reward ads for basic gameplay
• Ads that appear mid-session without warning

The experience often feels less like playing a game and more like navigating a commercial maze.

Then Came the Subscriptions… and More Subscriptions

As annoying as ads are, what’s even more frustrating for users is the rise of subscription paywalls meant to remove them.

Instead of a one-time $1.99 or $4.99 purchase, many apps now offer:

• $5.99 per week
• $9.99 per month
• $49.99 per year
• “Gold,” “Platinum,” and “Elite” tiers
• Bundles that still don’t remove all ads

These subscription models can quickly add up, especially when dozens of apps use the same strategy. What used to cost a few dollars now costs as much as a streaming service.

It leaves users wondering: Why do I have to subscribe to everything just to enjoy a simple app?

When “Free-to-Play” Turns Into “Pay-or-Suffer”

The biggest complaint among mobile users is how aggressive the system has become.

• Many games intentionally slow down progress unless you watch ads.
• Some apps lock features behind subscriptions that were once free.
• Others bombard users with pop-ups begging for upgrades or purchases.

It creates a culture where "free-to-play" doesn’t actually feel free at all. It feels like you’re being punished for not paying.

Are Developers at Fault? Not Entirely.

It’s important to acknowledge that most indie developers depend on ads or small purchases to survive. The real issue is how large advertising networks and monetization platforms have shaped the modern app economy.

Still, there’s a balance—and many apps have lost it.

What Users Really Want

People aren’t against supporting developers. In fact, many would gladly pay:

• A one-time fee to remove ads
• A fair, low-cost subscription
• A reasonable tier system

But they want transparency. They want simplicity. They want an app that doesn’t require a financial spreadsheet to understand what they’re paying for.

The Future: Will Things Change?

There is hope. More users are speaking out, calling for:

• One-time purchase options
• Less intrusive advertising
• Clear pricing structures
• Fair gameplay without ad manipulation

If developers listen, we could see a more user-friendly shift in how mobile apps and games are monetized. But for now, many of us are stuck closing ads every 15 seconds just to relax or get something done.

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Thanks for reading. Cecilia 

Breaking into Fashion as a Plus-Size Model in the 2000s — and the Doors Opened Since Then

 

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The 2000s felt like a paradox for women’s fashion: the mainstream still elevated a very narrow “straight-size” idea of beauty, while the internet and grassroots movements quietly began building new pathways for fuller-figured representation. If you were trying to break in as a plus-size model back then, you faced limited castings, fewer agencies that would sign you, frequent stereotyping, and runway and editorial spaces that rarely made room for curves. Over the last 20–30 years, though, some important walls have come down — and new routes for discovery, booking, and advocacy exist that simply didn’t in 2000.

Below I’ll cover:

• What the biggest barriers were in the 2000s
• The major changes and milestones in the last 30 years
• Practical places to find casting calls, auditions, and agencies today (with links and resources you can use right now)

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What the 2000s looked like for plus-size hopefuls

• Industry expectations were narrow. Designers, magazines and many casting directors were centered on a small size range — runway and editorial work overwhelmingly favored very thin models. That meant fewer bookings and fewer role models in mainstream fashion.
• Limited agency representation. Only a handful of agencies were actively developing plus-size divisions; many agencies either ignored curve talent or offered only token representation, which made building a sustainable career difficult.
• Stereotyping and typecasting. When plus-size models were hired, they were often pigeonholed into specific categories (e.g., only catalog or “plus” campaigns) rather than considered for the full spectrum of fashion work.

These barriers meant many plus-size models had to create their own visibility — building followings online, creating portfolios outside of agency systems, and pressing brands directly for inclusion.

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What’s changed in the last ~30 years — wins and regressions

Wins

• Visible superstar figures and role models. Breakout plus-size figures (Ashley Graham, Iskra Lawrence, Tess Holliday and others) helped demonstrate market demand and showed brands that inclusive casting sells and builds loyalty. Their success opened doors for editorial, runway and brand partnerships.
• Dedicated plus-size agencies and divisions. New boutiques and agency divisions focused on curvy talent have appeared, offering targeted development and bookings. Some fashion brands/talent businesses launched in response to demand specifically for plus-size talent.
• Open casting initiatives and broader scouting. Major platforms and publications have run open-casting programs to discover diverse talent, creating routes to editorial and agency connections that didn’t depend on traditional scouting.
• Retail and e-commerce demand. As big retailers and direct-to-consumer brands expanded plus-size lines, they needed models who actually fit those clothes — creating consistent demand for catalog and advertising bookings. Casting calls for brand campaigns and store lookbooks became more common.

Regressions / ongoing gaps

• Runway and high-fashion inclusion is inconsistent. Recent analyses show representation can still be tiny on major runways, and progress sometimes slips back with certain seasons or brands returning to straight-size casting. In short: visibility has improved, but inclusion is not yet guaranteed across the board.

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Practical resources — where to find casting calls & auditions now

Below are active, widely used places plus-size models can check for castings, plus tools that help you be ready to submit.

Casting platforms and job boards

• Backstage — listings for plus-size modeling jobs, editorial, commercial and open casting calls. Great for both local and national opportunities.
• PlusSizeCasting / PlusSizeCasting.com (and related casting portals) — specialized casting listings for plus-size models and actors; a hub of size-specific opportunities. (Some local portals or aggregated casting apps use this feed.)
• Brand casting pages (example: Torrid’s model searches & casting calls) — many plus-size retailers run their own open calls and model searches; check brand websites and social channels for announcements. Torrid has hosted model searches/casting calls in recent years.

Tip: Create profiles on general casting sites (Backstage, Casting Networks, Casting Calls America) and subscribe to email alerts/feeds for “plus-size,” “curve,” “plus model” keywords.

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Where to find agencies that represent plus-size models

Many traditional agencies now have plus-size divisions; boutique agencies focus exclusively on curve talent. Below are reputable places to start researching and submitting (each entry has a range of national and boutique options — check submission pages and requirements):

Agency directories & starting points

• Backstage’s guide to plus-size modeling agencies — a helpful overview and starting point for agencies actively representing plus-size talent. Use it to research submission requirements and regional options.
• LATITUDE / curated lists of plus-size agencies — independent roundups that list recognized plus-size agencies and boutique options. These can point you to agencies across New York, Los Angeles, London and other markets.
• Local/boutique agencies (examples) — Part & Parcel Talent (started to represent plus-size talent connected to the brand world), CM Models and Models Direct are examples of agencies and platforms that either focus on or have divisions for plus-size models. Always check current rosters and submission details.

How to check an agency before you submit

• Look for an official agency site with submission guidelines (no upfront fees to be signed).
• Check rosters and recent bookings — are their models actually working with brands you recognize?
• Read reviews, ask for references from models who have worked with them, and verify contract terms before signing.

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Practical tips to improve your odds (portfolio + submissions)

1. Build a clean, honest portfolio — simple headshots and full-body polaroids (natural light, minimal makeup) plus a small set of professional images showing range. Agencies will often ask for both.
2. Consistency matters. Maintain consistent sizing and measurements; clients appreciate reliability for sample sizing and fit.
3. Leverage social media strategically. Many plus-size models have been discovered via strong Instagram or TikTok presences that show personality, style and the ability to engage an audience.
4. Network with plus-size communities. Facebook groups, model networks, and local meetups for plus-size creatives can surface casting leads and collaborative portfolio shoots.
5. Apply broadly but carefully. Submit to brand model searches, boutique agencies, and national casting platforms — but always vet offers and never pay a fee to be represented.

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A realistic outlook

There has been real, measurable progress: more agencies and brands are hiring curve models, open-casting initiatives exist, and star models have changed public perception and buying behavior. That said, inclusion is uneven — runway representation and high-fashion houses still often fall short — and the industry can regress by season or designer. The good news is you don’t have to wait for gatekeepers: between direct brand castings, specialty agencies, and digital discovery channels, there are now more routes to work than in the 2000s.

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Quick resource list (links you can click)

• Backstage — plus-size modeling jobs & how-to:
• Backstage article: Top plus-size modeling agencies (directory & guide):
• PlusSizeCasting / casting portal (plus-size specific castings):
• Torrid model search / brand casting examples:
• Agency examples & roundups (LATITUDE / curated lists):
• Industry context & history pieces (Business Insider overview of the industry’s earlier hypocrisy and evolution):
• Vogue Open Casting and industry initiatives (examples of editorial-driven discovery):

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Final note — a quick, practical starting plan

1. Make 3 strong natural polaroids (headshot, profile, full body).
2. Create a short online portfolio (even a simple Instagram or link page).
3. Sign up for Backstage and set alerts for “plus-size” casting calls.
4. Research 3 agencies from the Backstage agency guide and submit as they request (follow each agency’s submission rules).
5. Join one or two plus-size networking groups online to learn about local openings.

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Warren Buffett’s Final Letter as CEO: A Quiet Farewell to an Era

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At 95 years old, Warren Buffett has penned what looks like his final letter as the CEO of Berkshire Hathaway. In a message that’s both humble and deeply reflective, Buffett announced that he is “going quiet” — stepping back from his public role, yet reaffirming his faith in the company’s future and naming his successor.

A Soothing Exit: “Going Quiet”

Buffett begins poignantly:

“I will no longer be writing Berkshire’s annual report or talking endlessly at the annual meeting. As the British would say, I’m ‘going quiet.’ Sort of.”

With his trademark humility, he frames this not as a dramatic exit, but a gentle retreat — more a slowing down than a full stop.

Endorsement of the Next Leader

In the letter, Buffett confirms that Greg Abel will take over as CEO at the end of the year:

“Greg Abel will become the boss at year-end. He is a great manager, a tireless worker and an honest communicator. Wish him an extended tenure.”

He reflects on Abel’s deep understanding of Berkshire’s businesses, saying:

“He understands many of our businesses and personnel far better than I now do, and he is a very fast learner about matters many CEOs don’t even consider.”

In Buffett’s words:

“I can’t think of a CEO, a management consultant, an academic, a member of government – you name it – that I would select over Greg to handle your savings and mine.”

That’s high praise — and a clear signal of his confidence in Abel’s ability to lead Berkshire into its next chapter.

Reflecting on Life and Legacy

Buffett doesn’t shy away from introspection. He muses on mortality, the passage of time, and the role of luck in his success. He even jokes:

“Father Time now finds me more interesting as I age. And he is undefeated; for him, everyone ends up on his score card as wins.”

He acknowledges the frailties that come with age — “balance, sight, hearing, and memory … on a persistently downward slope” — yet expresses gratitude for still being actively involved:

“Though I move slowly and read with increasing difficulty, I am at the office five days a week where I work with wonderful people.”

Philanthropic Acceleration

A major part of the letter is devoted to his plans for giving. Buffett converted 1,800 Class A shares into 2.7 million Class B shares to donate to four family foundations: The Susan Thompson Buffett Foundation, The Sherwood Foundation, The Howard G. Buffett Foundation, and the NoVo Foundation.

He frames this not as a loss of faith in Berkshire, but as a deliberate acceleration of his philanthropic mission:

“The acceleration of my lifetime gifts to my children’s foundations in no way reflects any change in my views about Berkshire’s prospects.”

Wisdom and Advice for Shareholders

Buffett closes with a handful of his signature aphorisms, blending business guidance with personal philosophy. Some of his counsel:

• “Don’t beat yourself up over past mistakes — learn at least a little from them and move on.”
• “Get the right heroes and copy them.”
• “Decide what you would like your obituary to say and live the life to deserve it.”
• “Keep in mind that the cleaning lady is as much a human being as the Chairman.”
• “Kindness is costless but also priceless.”

He leaves shareholders with this closing insight:

“Choose your heroes very carefully and then emulate them. You will never be perfect, but you can always be better.”

Passing the Torch: Greg Abel

Who is Greg Abel? Buffett’s choice to succeed him is not just symbolic — Abel is a longtime Berkshire executive with deep experience. He currently serves as Vice Chairman of Berkshire’s non-insurance operations and has overseen major parts of the business, including BNSF Railway, See’s Candies, and Dairy Queen.

The board officially appointed him President and CEO, effective January 1, 2026, while Buffett will remain Chairman of the Board.

Abel is known for a low-profile leadership style, combining hard work and integrity — qualities that Buffett values deeply.

What This Means for Berkshire’s Future

Buffett’s exit marks the end of an unparalleled era. But his letter is also a mission statement of continuity: he believes in a successful future under Abel, and he’s not stepping away entirely. By retaining significant shares and continuing his philanthropy, Buffett remains invested — in more ways than one.

His “going quiet” is not a silence of surrender but a quiet handover. He leaves behind not just a massive conglomerate, but a deeply held set of values: long-term thinking, humility, generosity, and the belief that business can serve more than just profit.

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Thanks for reading. Cecilia 

I Built Savory with @base_44 — A New Home for Food Critics and Cooks ( Chefs )

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I’m excited to share something I’ve been building with @base_44: Savory, a fresh digital space designed for food critics, home cooks, chefs, and culinary creators.

Savory brings together two worlds that often orbit each other but rarely cross paths online. Food critics get a place to discover rising talent, review dishes, and connect with passionate cooks. Cooks get a platform to showcase their flavors, share recipes, build credibility, and receive real feedback from experts and fellow creators.

With Savory, the goal is simple:
Create a community where food isn’t just posted — it’s experienced, discussed, and celebrated.

Whether you’re plating a masterpiece or breaking down the story behind a meal, Savory gives you a place to be seen, heard, and inspired.

We’re just getting started.
Come take a look: savory-fb378754.base44.app/login

A new culinary conversation begins now. Bon appétit. 🍽️✨

The Four Cycles of Life: What Turning 40 Really Means for Men and Women

 

By the time you reach 40, something profound happens — not just physically, but mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. You begin to understand that life moves in cycles, and at this stage, you’re standing at what many call the Pinnacle of Life.

This isn’t about getting older. It’s about awakening.
At 40, most people realize that every decision from here forward — every “yes” and every “no” — determines the quality of the rest of their life. You’re no longer building toward the person you’ll become; you are that person. And from here, refinement and purpose take center stage.

Let’s look at the four major life cycles that both men and women experience — and how the fourth one, beginning around 40, can either bring transformation or stagnation depending on your choices.

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1. The Cycle of Discovery (Ages 0–20)

This is the stage of becoming — learning who you are through experience, rebellion, and exploration.
You try, fail, dream, fall, and get back up. Everything feels infinite.

• For women, it’s the discovery of self-image, identity, and worth — often shaped by family, culture, and early heartbreak.
• For men, it’s about proving strength, independence, and belonging.

This cycle is about becoming aware. It’s not yet about purpose, but about understanding that you have one.

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2. The Cycle of Building (Ages 20–30)

Here, you start constructing your foundation — career, relationships, lifestyle, reputation. You make choices that begin to define who you are in the adult world.

• Women often face pressure to “do it all” — succeed in their career, nurture relationships, and perhaps start a family.
• Men often enter the provider mindset — working tirelessly to establish success, sometimes at the expense of emotional balance.

This is a period of ambition, but also identity confusion. You’re building, but not always in alignment with your true self.

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3. The Cycle of Realignment (Ages 30–40)

Now, the cracks begin to show. The foundation you built gets tested by reality.
You begin asking hard questions: Am I happy? Is this truly who I want to be?

• Women may start redefining beauty, success, and family roles. They crave authenticity, not approval.
• Men may face the quiet onset of the “midlife mirror” — a deep urge to reclaim lost dreams or redefine masculinity.

This cycle is often marked by internal conflict — the feeling that life is moving faster than your fulfillment.

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4. The Cycle of Mastery (Ages 40 and Beyond)

And then comes the awakening — the Pinnacle.

At 40, you are no longer guessing who you are. You’ve lived, loved, failed, and grown. But now, the question shifts from “What do I want?” to “What will I create from what I’ve learned?”

This is the season of clarity, maturity, and power.
However, it’s also the most pivotal point — because what you decide here determines whether the rest of your life unfolds in peace or regret.

• For women, turning 40 often brings liberation. Many shed old identities — no longer chasing validation, but purpose. They choose health, peace, and authenticity.
• For men, it’s a moment of reckoning. The external trophies (money, status, possessions) lose their shine. Legacy, meaning, and emotional depth become the real goals.

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The Crossroads of 40

At 40, you either evolve or repeat.
You either choose growth, healing, and courage — or cling to patterns that no longer serve you.

Every decision now has long-term impact:

• The partner you choose (or stay with) shapes your peace.
• The work you pursue defines your sense of purpose.
• The health habits you form determine your vitality after 50.
• The forgiveness you extend — to yourself or others — determines your freedom.

40 is the pivot point where wisdom meets willpower.
It’s not the end of youth; it’s the beginning of conscious living.

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Final Thought

The greatest tragedy isn’t aging — it’s staying the same.

At 40, you’ve earned the right to live deliberately. Whether you’re a man stepping into quiet strength or a woman reclaiming her divine power, this is your era of mastery.

What you decide now — how you love, what you chase, what you let go — will write the next forty years of your story.
Make it a masterpiece. Thanks for reading.

The Hidden Cost of Living on the Down Low

In a world where authenticity is celebrated more than ever, living “on the down low” — hiding one’s sexual identity or relationships — remains a painful reality for many. Men and women who conceal their sexuality often do so out of fear: fear of rejection, cultural pressure, or potential loss of family, career, or community standing. These fears are valid, but the consequences of secrecy can be devastating, both personally and for those around them.

When someone lives a double life, partners may unknowingly be exposed to emotional betrayal or even physical risks, such as sexually transmitted infections. Beyond the immediate harm, the deception erodes trust and perpetuates shame — reinforcing the very stigma that drives secrecy in the first place.

Honesty about one’s sexuality isn’t just a personal milestone; it’s an act of respect toward others. It allows for real connections built on truth rather than fear. Creating a culture where people feel safe to be open is everyone’s responsibility — because the cost of silence is far greater than the courage it takes to speak.

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⚠️ Warning to Young Gay and Lesbian Individuals About the “DL” Trend

The “down low” or “DL” trend on social media might seem like harmless fun, but it carries serious risks. When you post or joke about being “DL,” you’re opening yourself to misunderstanding, exposure, or even dangerous backlash. Many people online don’t respect privacy, and once something is shared, it can spread far beyond your control.

This kind of content can be weaponized against you — by classmates, employers, family, or strangers who don’t have good intentions. Beyond that, it can reinforce harmful stereotypes that hurt the LGBTQ+ community as a whole.

Be mindful of what you post. Protect your image, your privacy, and your safety. The internet doesn’t forget — and not everyone watching online means you well.

Stay safe, stay proud, and remember: your identity deserves respect, not risky trends.

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Embracing Singlehood in Solitude: Finding Purpose in the Pause

 

There comes a time in life when the noise quiets down, the relationships fade, and the world seems to slow just enough for you to finally hear your own thoughts. That time is often the phase of singlehood in solitude—a sacred season not meant for loneliness, but for rediscovery. It’s a period where you aren’t just alone—you are being refined.

1. Rest Without Guilt

You don’t have to be constantly busy to prove your worth. Take this time to rest—physically, emotionally, and mentally. Let your body and soul reset. Sleep in. Journal your thoughts. Breathe deeply. Rest is not laziness; it’s preparation for what’s next. Think of it as the soil being nourished before a new season of growth.

2. Pray and Reconnect Spiritually

Solitude creates space to hear divine whispers that get lost in the noise of relationships and responsibilities. Use this time to pray, meditate, and seek clarity. Whether it’s through scripture, affirmations, or simply quiet reflection, align your spirit with peace. Let prayer become your anchor—it’s where your next chapter begins to unfold.

3. Learn New Skills and Explore Your Passions

Singlehood is fertile ground for personal growth. Try new things—take that online course, learn a language, pick up painting, or finally start that business idea that’s been sitting in your notes app. Every skill you build adds another layer of confidence and independence. Remember: when you invest in yourself, you attract what’s aligned with your higher self.

4. Take Care of Yourself—Inside and Out

Use this phase to nourish your mind, body, and spirit. Eat better, move more, read books that inspire you, and surround yourself with positive energy. Create rituals that make you feel loved—morning tea, skincare routines, walks in nature, or quiet evenings with music and candles. Self-care isn’t vanity; it’s healing.

5. Reflect on Who You’re Becoming

Singlehood is not a waiting room for love—it’s a training ground for purpose. Reflect on what you’ve learned from past relationships, but don’t dwell there. Focus on who you’re becoming, not who you were. The more you grow into your authentic self, the more peace you’ll find in being alone—and eventually, the more aligned your future connections will be.

Final Thoughts

This season of solitude isn’t punishment—it’s preparation. It’s where you rest, reset, and realign with your purpose. One day, you’ll look back and realize that this quiet chapter was where you found your strength, peace, and clarity.

So rest. Pray. Learn. Heal.
You are not waiting—you are becoming.

Thanks for reading. Cecilia 

UFE procedure and IVF alternatives

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What is UFE (Uterine Fibroid Embolization)

Definition & Purpose

• UFE, also called Uterine Artery Embolization (UAE), is a minimally invasive procedure performed by an interventional radiologist. Its goal is to shrink or eliminate uterine fibroids by cutting off or reducing their blood supply.
• It is an alternative to more invasive surgeries like hysterectomy (removal of uterus) or myomectomy (surgical removal of fibroids) when fibroids cause symptoms like heavy bleeding, pelvic pain or pressure, urinary or bowel problems.

Procedure & How It Works

• A catheter is inserted, usually via the groin (femoral artery) or sometimes wrist, under imaging (fluoroscopy) guidance.
• Embolic agents (tiny beads or microspheres) are injected into the uterine arteries feeding the fibroids. These block the blood supply, causing the fibroids to “starve” and shrink over time, relieving symptoms.
• No large incisions; uterus is preserved. Recovery is quicker vs open surgery.

Effectiveness and Outcomes

• Many patients (estimates: ~80-90%) experience significant symptom relief.
• Shrinkage of fibroids is on the order of roughly half (though depends on size, type, and number).
• Some risk: pain/cramping (especially early after procedure), possible temporary effects on ovarian function or fertility. Recurrence of symptoms or need for additional treatments occurs in some.

History / When Introduced

• UFE was first described in 1995 in a small case series of women.
• By the late 1990s it was adopted more broadly in the US and elsewhere. UChicago Medicine notes its first use in the U.S. around 1997.

Who is a Good Candidate / Limitations

• Best if you have symptoms (bleeding, pain, pressure) that affect quality of life.
• If pregnancy in the future is not a priority, or you accept some risk to fertility. UFE may compromise fertility in some cases.
• Not ideal if there is a pelvic infection, certain bleeding disorders, very large or degenerating fibroids, or in some cases fibroids that distort the uterine cavity severely.

Recovery & Aftercare

• The procedure takes about 1 to 3 hours.
• Hospital stay: often outpatient (go home same day) or one night.
• Recovery: mild to moderate discomfort (cramping, pain, possible nausea), usually subsides within days, many resume light activities within a week, full recovery in 1-2 weeks in many cases.

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IVF & Its Alternatives: Timeline, Key Milestones, and What Options Exist

Here’s a look at IVF, its history, and other fertility treatments that are or have been alternatives. For each, I’ll include when it emerged / became established, what it involves, and pros & cons (especially relative to IVF).

Treatment	Established or Major Milestone Date(s)	What It Is / How It Works	Pros & Cons / When Used
In Vitro Fertilization (IVF)	First successful human birth: Louise Brown, England, 1978. First US IVF baby: 1981.	Eggs are retrieved from a woman, fertilized in a lab with sperm, then embryo(s) transferred into the uterus. Can use own or donor eggs/sperm. Controlled ovarian stimulation is often used to produce multiple eggs.	Pros: high success rates (especially with modern techniques), genetic testing possible, effective for many causes of infertility. Cons: expensive, physically demanding, risk of multiple pregnancies if multiple embryos, risk of ovarian hyperstimulation, emotional burden.
Ovulation Induction / Stimulation (e.g., Clomiphene, Letrozole, Gonadotropins)	Mid-20th century: Clomiphene citrate approved in 1960s, use of gonadotropins followed.	Drugs are used to stimulate the ovaries to produce one or more eggs; cycle monitored; sometimes used with timed intercourse or IUI.	Pros: less invasive than IVF, lower cost, fewer risks. Cons: lower success per cycle than IVF; risk of multiples if more than one egg; not effective if severe infertility factors (e.g. blocked tubes, very low sperm count).
Intrauterine Insemination (IUI)	Use traces back centuries for artificial insemination; IUI in modern form became more common in 20th century; combined with ovulation induction became well-established mid-20th to late 20th century.	Sperm are prepared in the lab (washed, concentrated) and placed directly into the uterus around ovulation. Can be done in natural cycle or stimulated (medications).	Pros: simpler, cheaper than IVF; less physically burdensome. Cons: lower success rates; less useful if severe female or male factor issues; may require several cycles; risk of multiples with stimulation.
Gamete (Egg or Sperm) Donation	Egg donation IVF established in the 1980s; sperm donation earlier but formal egg donation for IVF in ~1984.	When one partner’s gametes are not usable, a donor’s sperm or eggs are used in IVF.	Pros: allows many infertile couples to conceive; donor options broaden choices. Cons: legal, ethical, and emotional considerations; costs; sometimes recipient’s body more likely to reject or have complications.
Frozen Embryo / Egg Transfers (Cryopreservation)	First baby from frozen embryo: Australia, 1984; frozen donor egg babies somewhat later.	Eggs or embryos are frozen for later use; allows delaying cycles or saving excess embryos.	Pros: flexibility, reduced ovarian stimulation multiple cycles; preserves fertility. Cons: freeze/thaw reduces viability; may require specific labs and costs; not all frozen eggs/embryos survive.
Intracytoplasmic Sperm Injection (ICSI)	First successful pregnancies via ICSI in 1992.	Single sperm is injected directly into oocyte; especially used in male factor infertility (low sperm count or poor motility).	Pros: very helpful for male infertility; large increase in possibilities. Cons: more manipulation; may have slightly different risk profiles; more expensive; ethical concerns in some contexts.
Alternative/Less Common ART Techniques (e.g. GIFT, ZIFT, embryo transfer, mitochondrial replacement)	GIFT & ZIFT developed in the 1980s as alternatives to IVF (gametes or zygotes transferred into fallopian tube rather than uterus). Embryo transfer (from one woman to another) first successful in 1983 with birth in 1984.	These alternatives vary: GIFT = gametes are placed in fallopian tubes; ZIFT = zygote placed in tube; embryo transfer between women, etc.	Pros: sometimes more “natural” in that fertilization or early embryo development occurs in body rather than exclusively in lab. Cons: invasive surgeries in some cases; reduced control; fewer clinics offer them nowadays; often overshadowed by advances in IVF.

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Comparing UFE with Fertility Treatment Options

Since UFE is about treating fibroids whereas IVF and the above options are about assisting fertilization / overcoming barriers to creating a pregnancy, the role of each is different. But sometimes the presence of fibroids is a reason someone considers IVF or other fertility treatments. Key comparison points:

• Purpose: UFE treats fibroids (uterine growths causing symptoms), not directly infertility or fertilization. IVF & alternatives treat infertility or barriers to becoming pregnant.
• Uterus preservation: UFE preserves the uterus (but may impact fertility), whereas some fibroid treatments (myomectomy, hysterectomy) may carry different risks. IVF alternatives often rely on intact reproductive anatomy.
• Fertility outcomes: If fertility is an aim, fibroid treatment strategy matters. Some women with fibroids undergo myomectomy (if fibroids distort uterine cavity), and then may do IVF if needed. UFE's effect on fertility is less certain.
• Invasiveness & recovery: UFE is less invasive than major surgery; many IVF-alternatives (like IUI, ovulation induction) are less invasive but IVF involves egg retrieval (surgery under sedation).

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Summary & What to Know

• If fibroids are causing symptoms and interfering with fertility, it’s important to talk with your care team about all options: UFE, myomectomy, possibly combining fibroid treatment with fertility treatment.
• If fertility is a priority, especially desire for pregnancy, then treatment plans should consider not just symptom relief but long-term prospects.

Thanks for reading. Cecilia 

Kara's Destiny Original Short Story by Cecilia Okugo 10/11/25

 

One night Kara had a car accident on the road with a truck driver. 

The truck driver was at fault. When the truck driver exited the truck to see if Kara was ok he rushed to be by her side when he saw the car was on its side. 

Kara was screaming for help. The truck driver said hi my name is Tony I'll get you out. Tony pushed the car until it was right side up and pulled Kara out of the window.

Kara was crying and couldn't believe she was safe. Kara thanked Tony for saving her. The Police, Ambulance 🚑 and Fire 🚒 Fighters Arrived to care for the injured. They rush Kara to the Hospital 🏥 and Tony was right by her side. Kara fractured her leg and shoulder. Tony was worried he'd loose his Commercial Driving License 🪪.

Now at the hospital a day has passed and Kara woke full a deep sleep from all the medicine 💊 💉. Tony said Hi Kara, I couldn't leave you until I knew you were safe and well.

Once Tony saw that Kara was up and on her way to a speedy recovery, he could finally leave and go home to get some rest 

Several weeks had passed. Tony arrived at the hospital to check on Kara but she wasn't there. Tony asked the front desk for Kara's last name. The clerk said Kara's last name is Richard’s.

Tony went to his car and called the police station about the car wreck and to retrieve a number for Kara Richards. They gave it to him. 

Tony called for Kara, she answered his call on the first ring. Hi Kara I'm Tony the man who hit your car on the road I was calling to see how you were. Is everything ok can I do anything? Kara replied that she was fine. Sadly the wreck made me miss carry my 🍼. Although Kara was unaware she pregnant.

Hope you don't find this odd but would you consider going on a date with me Tony said.

Kara agreed. They'd become close the more they frequent themselves. The car wreck was their destiny

 to be together.

Information Age to Scroll Age

The information age turned into the “scroll age” because our attention became the most profitable resource on the planet.

1. Attention = Money

Social media platforms don’t sell content — they sell your attention to advertisers. The longer you stay on an app, the more ads they can show you, and the more data they can collect about your habits, emotions, and desires. Infinite scrolling and algorithms that reward outrage or instant gratification were deliberately designed to keep you hooked.

2. The Brain Loves Dopamine

Every like, comment, or video gives your brain a little hit of dopamine — the same chemical released when we eat something sweet or win a game. Over time, your brain starts craving those quick hits instead of deep focus or meaningful learning. So instead of using the internet to grow, we use it to feel stimulated.

3. Algorithms Favor Emotion Over Substance

Information that makes people feel — angry, amused, shocked, validated — spreads faster than information that makes people think. That’s why you see more viral memes than thoughtful essays in your feed.

4. Overload + Fatigue

We now have access to more information than any human in history, but our brains haven’t evolved to handle it all. Constant exposure leads to fatigue — so people retreat into easy, mindless scrolling rather than intentional exploration.

5. Loss of Purposeful Digital Culture

In the early internet, people went online to create, discover, and connect. Now, the platforms themselves create the content, curate what you see, and nudge how you react. Users have shifted from participants to consumers in a digital attention economy.

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In short:
The information age promised empowerment, but without awareness, it turned into an age of distraction — because systems designed for profit optimized for addiction, not enlightenment.

Thanks for reading. Cecilia 

Toxic Parents: The Excuses We Make and How to Break Free

Many of us grow up with the belief that “family is everything.” But what happens when the very people who are supposed to nurture, guide, and love us unconditionally are the ones who cause the most pain? Toxic parents often leave scars that follow their children well into adulthood. And despite the pain, many adult children make excuses for their parents’ behavior — clinging to hope, obligation, or fear.

Common Excuses Adult Children Make for Toxic Parents

Even after years of mistreatment, many adults minimize or rationalize their parents’ behavior:

• “That’s just how they are.”
• “They had a tough childhood, too.”
• “They did the best they could.”
• “At least they provided food and shelter.”
• “Family comes first, no matter what.”

While empathy is important, constantly excusing toxic behavior only prolongs the cycle of pain.

Recognizing Toxic Parenting Patterns

Toxic parents don’t all look the same, but their patterns are consistent. Some common signs include:

• Control disguised as love – Dictating your life choices, undermining your independence.
• Emotional manipulation – Guilt-tripping, silent treatment, or playing the victim.
• Conditional love – Affection and approval based only on achievements or compliance.
• Criticism and belittling – Dismissing your feelings, mocking your goals, or comparing you negatively to others.
• Lack of boundaries – Ignoring your privacy, overstepping into your personal life, or expecting you to parent them.
• Gaslighting – Denying your experiences, twisting the truth, or making you feel “crazy.”
• Favoritism and scapegoating – Pitting siblings against one another or designating one child as the “problem.”

If these patterns sound familiar, you’re not alone — many adults wrestle with the invisible weight of toxic family dynamics.

How to Break Free from Toxic Patterns

Cutting ties isn’t always possible or desirable, but you can protect your peace and well-being. Here are key steps:

1. Acknowledge the reality. Stop minimizing their behavior. Call it what it is: toxic.
2. Set clear boundaries. Decide what behaviors you will and won’t tolerate. Communicate these boundaries firmly.
3. Limit or cut contact. It’s okay to reduce visits, ignore phone calls, or go no-contact if necessary.
4. Stop justifying them. Their pain doesn’t excuse the harm they’ve caused you.
5. Seek support. Therapy, support groups, or trusted friends can help you untangle years of emotional manipulation.
6. Redefine family. Family isn’t always blood. Create a chosen family of people who respect and uplift you.
7. Prioritize your healing. Journaling, therapy, meditation, and self-compassion practices help rebuild self-worth.

Final Thoughts

It takes courage to admit that your parents are toxic — and even more courage to stop making excuses for them. Breaking free doesn’t mean you hate them; it means you love yourself enough to stop tolerating harm. Remember: you are not obligated to carry the weight of their dysfunction. Your healing, boundaries, and peace are valid — and they matter.

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Thanks for reading. Cecilia 

7 Year Plan Road Map For My Personal Goals

 My goals are to save money, write more, produce more art, direct a film based off my novel Love Is Not Enduring and travel. I want a few houses and cars 7 years from now.

1. Financial Foundation (Years 1–3)

Save money intentionally: Set a monthly savings target (e.g., 20–30% of income). Automate it.

Invest smartly: Use index funds, ETFs, or real estate to grow wealth.

Build credit / reduce debt: Strong financial health helps with buying homes & cars later.

2. Creative Output (Ongoing)

Writing: Commit to a daily or weekly writing routine (even 30 mins/day adds up).

Art: Create and release art consistently—consider online platforms or exhibits.

Film project:

Year 1–2 → Develop screenplay from Love Is Not Enduring.

Year 2–3 → Build connections, crowdfunding, grants, or investors.

Year 4–5 → Direct the film.

Year 6–7 → Push into festivals, distribution, or streaming platforms.

3. Lifestyle & Assets (Years 4–7)

Travel: Start with smaller trips (Year 1–2), then longer international travel as savings/income grows.

Homes & cars:

Year 3–4 → Purchase first home (primary residence or rental).

Year 5–7 → Expand into multiple properties & upgrade vehicles.

4. Milestones by Year

Year 1: Save aggressively, refine novel into screenplay, finish one major art project.

Year 2: Begin networking in film/art communities, take 1–2 meaningful trips.

Year 3: Secure financing (grants, investors, or personal savings) for your film. Buy first property.

Year 4–5: Direct Love Is Not Enduring. Expand your art portfolio.

Year 6: Travel more extensively, showcase your film, buy second property.

Year 7: Multiple houses/cars acquired, established as a creative and financial powerhouse.

Etsy Printable Digital | Cecilia Cauldron Etsy Shop

Visit Store Here: https://www.etsy.com/shop/CeciliasCauldron

What My Shop Offers

You have six digital download items for sale. (Etsy) Each is priced at US $10.00. (Etsy) The pieces seem to be high-resolution art or planner files suited for DIY, crafts, or personal use. (Etsy) Here are some specifics:

Item	Type / Theme	What it says about the product
Whimsical Character Clipart: High-Res DIY Images	Clipart / whimsical / character illustrations	Probably various characters you can use for crafts, scrapbooking, digital work. (Etsy)
Good Ole American President	Patriotic / Americana / humor or art	A themed art file likely referencing U.S. Presidents or American style imagery. (Etsy)
Jesus Art: High Res Digital Image for DIY Projects	Religious / Spiritual art	For DIY spiritual or religious projects. Could be used for printing, crafts, etc. (Etsy)
Black Royalty Art: High-Res Digital Images for DIY Projects	Cultural / identity art	Emphasis on Black culture / royalty – perhaps portraits or imagery celebrating that. (Etsy)
2026 Daily, Monthly and Annual Planner	Planner / organizational tool	A planner for the next year, likely with several calendar views etc. (Etsy)
Galactic Space Aliens	Sci-Fi / space theme art	Outer space themed artwork or illustrations. (Etsy)

Also from the shop description / announcement:

• Each “digital collection” consists of 5 digital files, each under 1 MB. (Etsy)

• The shop is advertised as “Digital Art” with a variety of fun themes (outer space, magic, “true American patriarch”) and DIY-friendly art. (Etsy)

• The creator is based in Texas (Fort Worth) and identifies as a digital artist & writer. (Etsy)

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What is good / what you could think about

Strengths

• Variety of themes: You cover different interests (religious, cultural, whimsical, space, organizational). That helps attract different kinds of buyers.

• Consistent pricing: All at $10 makes things simple for customers.

• Clear format: Items are labeled “Digital Download” and the file-size / number of files is specified, which helps buyers understand what they’re purchasing.

Possible opportunities for improvement or expansion

• Preview images: If not already, ensure there are multiple preview images showing the digital art in use (e.g. mockups, printed versions, as planner pages, etc.). Buyers like seeing context.

• File formats / specs: Clarify what file formats buyers will receive (PNG, JPG, PDF, etc.), the resolution, whether transparent background, etc. Though you note “high-res,” more detail helps.

• Licensing / usage rights: It can help to include what buyers can and can’t do with the art (personal vs commercial use). That avoids confusion.

• Bundled vs single-theme items: Since each collection has 5 files, perhaps offering both individual files and collections might appeal to some who want just one design rather than the whole pack.

• Seasonal / trending themes: Perhaps an opportunity to make seasonal art (holidays, etc.) or themes that are trending.

Thank you for reading. Cecilia