Today I opened my FB app and saw this question?
TheTonyaTkoShow What do you say to someone who says theyre willing to help you, but not in the way you NEED help, but how they WANT to help?
I answered with:
Cecilia Ada
Depends. If they are not too far off then their help may get me that much closer to my needs being met even if it's not what I expected. Or if they know exactly what I want but disregard it and inforce their own plans than ppl EGO has just takin A front seat to your needs. Find other means to getting it done...if they are closetest to you than it may be personal reasons why they are diregarding your initial needs. If it is your partner acting funny seeking help from others may escalate or solve the problem. Consult God and search your heart cause the smallest decisions can make or brake you. Act accordingly. Remember it's your need not theirs so no one will care about it as much as you do.
9 minutes ago
To elaborate. I have had this topic cross my path more than once as the person who has everything and then as the person who needs everything. This is a sensative topic when it's in terms of the person seeking help.
The help rendered is never exactly what we want yet we should consider ourselves blessed if someone goes on reaches out which ever way they can. If we weigh in on how the responsibility of taking care of business and ourselves is on the us to do it and no one else then later to be rendered some kind of help, is like wow! You win.
Think of those that have no choice but to do it all for themselves. They have no one else to rely on. Any help is better than none at all. Some people hinder their blessings by placing time and ego into the benefits they should receive based on how much they give and or should receive in return.
Fairness is that with time all your needs were met with the help of others and or God opening a window for you to do it some of the work and he get the glory for adding the finishing touches.
That's it. Please realize that it is more blessed to give than receive. Then doing it all will seem more like a previledge than a burden. Matthew 5:38-42
(people use this scripture in the wrong context sometime...this not about being the avenger "eye for an eye" God is our avenger "you do it to me I'll do it to you" it's about being in sync with want is required of you)
We know what we feel when request upon others to rinder help and they hesitate, make excuses, turn us down....it would be nice to get the help we feel we deserve...ALL the time but that won't happen. Any help rindered AGAIN is better than none considering how it is hard to find help these days in TIME.
The upside is whatever the need may be God will supply all of them with or without the help of our brothern. We are all made strong and what God places on us is what he allows. No more than we can bare.
This is coming from an only child that would have turn out a selfish brat had I'd been rindered all a child could have but none of my fam and friends spoiled me and if I needed help today...lets just say they'd only do so much and the rest would be left my foot work and God almighty!
This is fine by me cause when you know what he can do for you you don't bother asking! I know some work will be required on my part and he'll do the rest.
Continued Blessings to you all.
Emela Chineke.
Cecilia Ada~
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